Associated with my assignment, I did browsing about a profile of a public speaker known as Cynthia. When I visited to her blog, I did reading a quite inspiring post. She wrote the post on November 2008, at that time, she was 34 years old. She shared about her relationship with her ex. How she annoyed by her ex behavior and she desired to feel real love in her relationship. I think, my self and many women have the same desires. How we expected being loved by our partner.
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I believe many of us always feel that other couple’s relationship works more romantic than ours. Their partner love them so much and would do almost anything for partners. But is there any of us try to analyze what is the thing that make the relationship runs well? From her blog, I learn what she called Law of Cause & Effect. It said take a tree as example to learn it. What do we see from a tree? We see the leaves, the flowers, the fruits and also see the trunk that holds it together. Does any of us see the roots? Maybe most of us just ignore the roots. But if there are no healthy roots, will we see the blossom flowers, the ripe fruits, the green leaves and the solid trunk? So which is the most important part of the tree? We both must answer the roots.
What if we relate it to a relationship? We see the fruits; romance, happy life the couple has, the amazing kids and family they have. We see the trunk; a great group of fellas and big family who support them. So, where is the root? Can you see it? The root is a great number of support from unconditionally love. They love each other and stick through it in good times and bad times.
Actually I already knew this more or less. But read her blog is like a self reminder to me -may I had the consistency to do it- that if I want a great romantic never-ending love story, I should give my best to my partner. Love is about giving. It is not about how much we can accept, it is about how much more we can give. When we give a thing to our partner, we have the chance to receive two things from him. But, what do we actually give? Unconditionally love as the root of relationship.
comment dulu ah.. hehe..
Posted by Aziz Hadi | March 11, 2011, 1:46 pmsaya cuman melongo baca Mbak Sya… ora mudeng hehe
cuma kata ini aja yang nyantol di otak saya “Love is about giving”
Posted by lozz akbar | March 11, 2011, 1:47 pmHhihihihi, apa perlu tak translate Mas?
Posted by Sya | March 12, 2011, 10:04 amhmm, yess, akhirnya bisa mengambil hikmahnya, tentang relationship, sepertinya bisa digambarkan seperti pohon beserta isinya, dan betul sekali, mereka saling terkait, mereka saling bekerjasama, sehingga terbentuk susunan yang indah yang akhirnya menimbulkan sisi positif dari pohon tersebut, seperti itulah relationship, semuanya saling melengkapi untuk hasil akhir terbaik.
salam kenal, aziz hadi
Posted by Aziz Hadi | March 11, 2011, 1:53 pmDan akar terbaiknya adalah cinta tanpa syarat.
Slam kenal juga
Posted by Sya | March 12, 2011, 9:56 amya akulah salah satu yang melupakan akar pada pohon.
tapi mudah2an semakin dewasa seseorang bisa memandang sebuah hubungan dengan lebih baik bersama pasangannya
Posted by gerhanacoklat | March 11, 2011, 2:39 pmSama Kak. Kadang suka lupa sama hukum sebab akibat. Ya semoga seiring dengan kedewasaan kita, kita bisa belajar dari masa lalu.
Posted by Sya | March 12, 2011, 9:55 amsetuju dek
hal2 kecil yang rasanya hebat banget padahal mungkin dari sisi pasangan kita tak berarti
begitu pula sebaliknya
Posted by gerhanacoklat | March 14, 2011, 2:32 pmWanita yang baik untuk pria yang baik, Sya. Semoga kita termasuk kelompok wanita2 itu ya.
Posted by monda | March 11, 2011, 5:39 pmInsya Allah Bunda Monda
Posted by Sya | March 12, 2011, 9:53 amcinta –> ikhlas
Posted by cholissragi | March 12, 2011, 5:48 amCinta tanpa syarat bisa membuat kita menerima dia apa adanya dengan ikhlas ya
Posted by Sya | March 12, 2011, 9:34 amwaduh blognya pake basa daerah,ngga ngrti euy..:-D :–D
I can’t spoken english,confusing sist..
Posted by fajar | March 12, 2011, 10:20 amWah kamu belum setting subtitlenya sih, hehehhe. Cek aja transaltenya di om google ya
Posted by Sya | March 14, 2011, 4:37 pmuhmmm…
gitu tho ternyata…
hmm…*padahal ngerti aja kagak*
Posted by Dina Aprilia | March 12, 2011, 5:14 pmEh, ini besok keluar lho di ujian. Harus ngerti nih
Posted by Sya | March 14, 2011, 4:37 pmim hungry
Posted by didta7 | March 12, 2011, 7:42 pmLho apa hubungannya hungry sama postingan saya ya?????
Posted by Sya | March 14, 2011, 12:47 pmAgree! Love is about giving ^_^
Posted by Ceritaeka | March 12, 2011, 8:21 pmI do agree too
Posted by Sya | March 14, 2011, 12:52 pmYeah, I’ll never forget root.
takada root-an akar pun jadi
salam kenal
Posted by Triunt | March 12, 2011, 11:10 pmHahahha, bisa aja
Salam kenal juga 
thanks ya udah berkunjung.
Posted by Sya | March 14, 2011, 1:17 pmone of the most important factor is water.
If there is no water, the tree will never grows.
So, where you’ll take the water on the tree of relationship ?
Posted by anla arinda | March 12, 2011, 11:49 pmI take no where but from my heart. How about you?
Posted by Sya | March 14, 2011, 1:24 pmya begitulah dibalik keindahan memberi…..
Posted by adipras | March 13, 2011, 5:25 amLebih tepatnya keindahan cinta tanpa syarat
Posted by Sya | March 14, 2011, 1:25 pmJadi, kesimpulannya gimana nih? Dari akar dulu, apa langsung memberi..?
Nice posting.
Posted by dira | March 14, 2011, 1:03 pmMemberi cinta tak bersyarat sebagai akar dalam sebuah hubungan
Posted by Sya | March 15, 2011, 12:26 pmunconditional love…
sering dilupain orang, padahal itu adalah dasar dari semua hubungan yang harmonis, yes?
Posted by evillya | March 14, 2011, 3:24 pmYup, sangat benar
Posted by Sya | March 15, 2011, 12:26 pmaduh bahasa inggris mbak?
keturunan orang sono yaa hahaha
Posted by Cahya Nugraha | March 14, 2011, 4:51 pmHahahaha, kan ga harus keturunan baru nulis bahasa Inggris. Ini saya lagi belajar
Posted by Sya | March 15, 2011, 12:35 pmPerumpamaan pohon itu jadi mengingatkan akan sebuat ayat yang merupakan penjelmaan dari seorang Muslim yang kuat. Pohon bisa mencerminkan apa saja karena pohon adalah alam itu sendiri ^_^
Dan memang, cinta adalah memberi …
Nice post ….
Posted by Bang Aswi | March 14, 2011, 5:39 pmPohon memang selalu diibaratkan akan sesuatu ya Bang. Mungkin karena banyak hal yang bisa kita pelajari dari sebuah pohon.
Posted by Sya | March 15, 2011, 12:41 pmrumput tetangga terlihat lebih hijau dari rumput halaman sendiri. Kenapa bisa gitu? karena mereka memberinya pupuk dan menyiraminya tiap hari. Dan itu juga yang harusnya dilakukan, “memberi pupuk dan menyirami rumput sendiri”
Posted by Lockjaw Theory | March 15, 2011, 2:11 amSaya setuju banget
Posted by Sya | March 15, 2011, 12:42 pmakar itu tak terlihat tapi dialah yang menopang semuanya ya, cinta tanpa syarat begitulah hakikat mencintai..
tapi terkadang banyak dari kita yg secara gak sadar mencintai seseorang padahal mencintai diri sendiri, memikirkan bagaimana mendapatkan balasan..
Posted by 'Ne | March 15, 2011, 9:47 amCintanya bersyarat dan lebih mengharapkan keuntungan buat diri sendiri. Susah untuk bisa merasakan unconditional love, tapi semoga ini bisa jadi pembelajaran untuk saya pribadi.
Posted by Sya | March 15, 2011, 12:50 pmternyata blog gula jawa itu bukan blognya bahasa jawa yach, tapi bahasa bule :p hehehe….
ta buka translate aja dech….
Posted by Rahasia KONTES SEO | March 15, 2011, 10:07 amNamanya menipu ya Kang?
Saya malah ga bisa bahaja Jawa
Posted by Sya | March 15, 2011, 12:51 pmAduh Mbak Sya pinter bahasa inggris ya..
heheheh
saya sampek bingung mau komen apa…
Posted by apikecil | March 18, 2011, 6:16 pmya, saya juga mencoba menerapkannya dalam kehidupan saya
yang penting itu bukan yang kita dapatkan, tapi yang sudah kita berikan..
cinta itu butuh keikhlasan
Posted by ~Amela~ | June 7, 2011, 7:03 pmAnd do not forget other root? What is it ? it is a grass root right? it reflects what actually people’s representation to unconditional thing, such as government policies and many others.
Posted by Zuli | June 20, 2011, 7:48 pmMaybe we can put it to other case too.
Posted by Sya | June 23, 2011, 5:18 pmbutuh google translate aku baca artikel ini. hehe
Selai
Posted by vanvan | March 27, 2013, 4:46 pm