Associated with my assignment, I did browsing about a profile of a public speaker known as Cynthia. When I visited to her blog, I did reading a quite inspiring post. She wrote the post on November 2008, at that time, she was 34 years old. She shared about her relationship with her ex. How she annoyed by her ex behavior and she desired to feel real love in her relationship. I think, my self and many women have the same desires. How we expected being loved by our partner.
I believe many of us always feel that other couple’s relationship works more romantic than ours. Their partner love them so much and would do almost anything for partners. But is there any of us try to analyze what is the thing that make the relationship runs well? From her blog, I learn what she called Law of Cause & Effect. It said take a tree as example to learn it. What do we see from a tree? We see the leaves, the flowers, the fruits and also see the trunk that holds it together. Does any of us see the roots? Maybe most of us just ignore the roots. But if there are no healthy roots, will we see the blossom flowers, the ripe fruits, the green leaves and the solid trunk? So which is the most important part of the tree? We both must answer the roots.
What if we relate it to a relationship? We see the fruits; romance, happy life the couple has, the amazing kids and family they have. We see the trunk; a great group of fellas and big family who support them. So, where is the root? Can you see it? The root is a great number of support from unconditionally love. They love each other and stick through it in good times and bad times.
Actually I already knew this more or less. But read her blog is like a self reminder to me -may I had the consistency to do it- that if I want a great romantic never-ending love story, I should give my best to my partner. Love is about giving. It is not about how much we can accept, it is about how much more we can give. When we give a thing to our partner, we have the chance to receive two things from him. But, what do we actually give? Unconditionally love as the root of relationship.